In 2018 the World Health Organization designated Sexual compulsivity as "an area of human suffering deserving of meaningful clinical answers." They followed this with a ICD-11 diagnosis which mirrors "sexual addiction". Thus the issue is again being taken up by the DSM . This talk is designed to offer realistic, useful insight into the problem of compulsive/addictive porn, sex, infidelity & related sexual acting out (on and offline). The talk provides insight into the process addictions, their treatment & the empathic insight required to view this problem for as the adult expression of early complex trauma and attachment loss. We will cover the specific ways that the digital world of porn,online sex etc. contributes to the problem.